How to interact with the non-disabled

Paul and Dr. Johan Galtung, Father of Peace Studies.

We took a look at how to interact with people with disabilities. How can people with physical disabilities interact better with the non-disabled? The Golden Rule still applies. Using a wheelchair entitles no one to be a douche bag. Don't be eighth grade Joey running into people for the hell of it. Nothing funny about it, seriously. In my experience, this is rare. I personally don't know any handicapped people who act like we are often portrayed in movies; you know the sullen, "why me" victim types. Most are people simply wanting to live as best they can. In this regard, we are all pretty much the same. 

Remember, the world doesn't owe you shit because you happen to have physical limitations. If it does, no one acts like it, so it's best to simply put expectations out of your mind. Somebody helps you out, holds a door, they always deserve a "Thank You." No owes you. Taking even the smallest assistance for granted, is uncool. The Golden Rule is a two way street. If someone is being a little too helpful, ie, hovering, let them know in a nice way. "I got it, but thanks!" If the situation allows for it, educate that person. "I like to do all I can myself, it keeps me more independent and stronger." Positive interaction can be easy. Don't over think it.        

Just a few thoughts for today...

For me, eye-contact is a good opener. I'm not trying to win a stare down contest, rather just acknowledging them on a person to person level. Most often, that's all there is to it. Occasionally, I'll get and or give a casual greeting. Can be as simple as "s'up, man?" It seems to put people more at ease. And no, you don't have to be handicapped to work it. Getting lost in our own day-to-day, worries, thoughts and day dreams is easy. Not acknowledging other people is too common. I think that's one reason I get positive feedback. We all like others to know we are here, valued and have meaning. Simple recognition goes a long way in my experience.      

Help takes many forms and is cross cultural. None of the people with me spoke a word of English.